My birthday was Friday. I am not one to celebrate my birthday, or expect a celebration. I don't feel bad if I don't get a card or gifts. A happy birthday wish is nice, but I don't get bent outta shape if it isn't said to me. I live with my girlfriend/ common-law wife of 8-9 years. We both work from home and see each other every day, all day. Our sex life is about once or twice a month on average. Yes it is pathetic. I really don't think she is "getting it" from someone else, as she barely leaves the house. I want to do it more, but getting her interested is either a task, or a borderline fight. So all day Friday we hang out. Friday night we go to a club. She gets drunk (again). No sex... again. Saturday we hang out all day. We get in a tiff and no sex again. She is now sleeping the day away, and we aren't talking. I am tired of telling her that I want more sex. We don't even kiss, and rarely have even minimal physical contact. It is really pathetic. I don't want to cheat on her, as I wouldn't want her to do that to me. I am still in my 30's and still like sex. This, among other things, is getting me to the point where I need to make some changes. I have a teen son, and she has a teen girl that we both raise full-time. We are also financially dependent on each other for a variety of reasons. Walking out the door and starting over is not an immediate option. The more it is like this, the more I resent her. The more I look into myself, I want to make changes, but those seem to go unnoticed. I don't want cologne, a fancy dinner, or a new shirt. I am working out, and watching everything that I am putting into my mouth, so I don't even want a cake. However, is it too much to ask for birthday sex? Nic-nac-paddywack... give a dog a bone.